Do you struggle to 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙘𝙩 with others?
If so, what fears do you have when it comes to connection, relationships, and friendships?
For me, it's 𝙧𝙚𝙟𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣.
I hesitate to go all in, give all my effort, and truly care because what if they get to know me, and decide they don't like me. Decide I'm not good enough. Decide I'm not worth their time. Decide they don't want me in their life.
Why do I fear this?
Because I've 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙙 this.
My brain tells me, this has happened before. It 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 happen again.
Yes, it might happen again, but I've 𝙛𝙖𝙧 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙣 had the opposite happen.
I've made 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙚 connections. Some I felt unworthy of and yet I've rarely been treated that way!!! The people that have treated me that way are 𝙣𝙤𝙩 an active part of my life. I don't do fake or disingenuine.
I've had to retrain my thought process to realize it's 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝 being myself, and putting myself out there. If I get rejected, that's probably for more to do with them than with me.
I consider, when have I rejected someone? And why?
There have only been a handful of times I've intentionally been rejecting towards another person. My reasons are to 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙩𝙚𝙘𝙩 my 𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙚, my mental and emotional 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙩𝙝, or to protect my 𝙛𝙖𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙮.
What do 𝙮𝙤𝙪 fear?